Creating a Moment of Intervention. . .
Want to send a card? Not sure what to say? You’re not alone.
Sometimes it can be hard to tell which of our well-meaning comments will be helpful and which may actually hurt more than they help. Below are some guidelines from the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance for letting someone know you’re there if they are suffering from a mental health disorder.
Put the statements into your own words, the most important thing is that your friend or loved one knows you’re there, and that they have your support.
|WHAT HELPS||WHAT HURTS|
|I know you have a real illness and that’s what causes these thoughts and feelings.||It’s all in your head.|
|I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.||We all go through times like this.|
|You are important to me. Your life is important to me.||You have so much to live for – why do you want to die?|
|Tell me what I can do now to help you.||What do you want me to do?
I can’t do anything about your situation.
|You might not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change.||Just snap out of it.
Look on the bright side.
|You are not alone in this. I’m here for you.||You’ll be fine. Stop worrying.|
|Talk to me. I’m listening.||Here’s my advice…|
|I am here for you. We will get through this together.||What’s wrong with you?
Shouldn’t you be better by now?
Gary James McQueen (nephew of the late Alexander McQueen) has collaborated with thortful to design an exclusive range of cards especially for sending to friends and family suffering with mental health issues, with the aim of bringing the subject to the forefront. All proceeds from sales of these cards will be donated to Chasing the Stigma, a charity bringing people together for a better understanding of mental health.